Following on from my last video about our Inner Child, in this blog I’ll share how doing Inner Child work and getting to know your Inner Adolescent Protector Parts can open the door to increasing your self-awareness, feelings of self-empowerment, self-acceptance, and ultimately self-love.
Connecting with my own Inner Child, and my Inner Adolescent Protector Parts has led me to a far greater sense of myself, what my triggers are, the masks I wear, the stories I tell myself, and how to integrate those aspects of myself, so that I now have a far more peaceful and happy life.
Do you feel that your life is so much more complicated than it should be?
Do you worry a lot and find yourself getting worked up when things don’t go “according to plan”?
or do you find it difficult to “see things clearly”, so you keep repeating the same old patterns, and keep coming up against roadblocks?
I can help you.
How many Inner Parts do you have?
Along with your Inner Child, we have many other Inner Parts. They all have quite a specific job to do. Their main aim is to keep us safe and help us to navigate through life.
In a nutshell, these Inner Adolescent Protector Parts are the adaptations we have learned during our early years of life. Sometimes these adaptations are helpful and healthy. At other times, they are based on false beliefs taken on by a fearful, vulnerable child. The adaptations they came up with as a child worked back then, but don’t work so well for us now as an adult.
Let’s use the example of Little Sarah.
Her Dad was a rather immature person and would come home from work, have a beer and flop on the couch watching TV or playing video games; saying he was too tired or stressed to play with Little Sarah.
Little Sarah’s Mum is also not very grown-up and is becoming more & more unhappy in her marriage. She is often miserable and forgets to do the washing up.
Little Sarah, like most small children, would like to have a happy Mum & Dad. One day when Mum was crying in her room, Little Sarah pulled the chair up to the sink and washed all the dishes to see if it would help. To her delight, Mum was so happy with what Little Sarah had done, and even smiled and told her she was a good girl for helping Mummy. When Daddy came home, Mummy told him what Little Sarah had done and he praised her too.
Little Sarah was overjoyed, and in her mind she had discovered an easy way to make her parents happy, just by washing dishes. So she adapted herself to fit in with this new understanding.
These adaptations (or Inner Adolescent Protector Parts) may take the name of “responsible caretaker” or “look after others first”. Little Sarah begins to disown the natural part of herself that “it is OK to nurture yourself too”. And the pattern is established. As she grows up she will keep trying to fix things and her “responsible caretaker” part will choose a life-partner who gets unhappy and likes to be cheered up and taken care of.
There are dozens of different adaptations we learn as young children.
Adaptations are there running in the background in our subconscious unconscious mind and often we find ourselves reacting and making decisions as that “8 or 10 or 12 year old”. It is when we bring this into our conscious awareness, growing our self-awareness, we can begin to learn to balance that “it is OK to look after others” and “it is OK to look after yourself too” and be at peace with that.
If this is something that you can relate with, I can help you.
I offer a free 20 minute consultation for you and I to have a chat about how I can help you.
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Judy Glover is a qualified Counsellor, Certified Crystal Healer (Hibiscus Moon method), The Liquid Crystals Advanced Practitioner, Reiki Practitioner (Usui & Seichim) and has been initiated into the 9 rites of the Munay Ki.
As an Integrative Therapist, she utilises the synergy of psychotherapy and energy therapy modalities to create a holistic approach, individually tailored to be most beneficial to you – collaborating with you, guiding and supporting you on your journey of self-discovery.